tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post3697991175737228217..comments2024-01-25T08:49:06.522-06:00Comments on Hanabi Boy: My DadYujihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-74082183964021571622012-07-14T22:24:53.207-05:002012-07-14T22:24:53.207-05:00Thank you, K. Much appreciated.Thank you, K. Much appreciated.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-89294541424057971132012-07-14T21:45:51.983-05:002012-07-14T21:45:51.983-05:00OMG I am sending you so many positive thoughts
LO...OMG I am sending you so many positive thoughts <br />LOts of positive vibes to your dad as well <br />Hugs YujiFloortime Lite Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07988840423227903784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-4635196114776705992012-07-14T14:28:30.938-05:002012-07-14T14:28:30.938-05:00Kelly, thank you for the compliment, and for the n...Kelly, thank you for the compliment, and for the nomination. <br /><br />Things are hectic around here right now, even more than usual, so fulfill all of the obligations, but I appreciate the honor.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-14581935575344627932012-07-14T00:48:13.779-05:002012-07-14T00:48:13.779-05:00Yuji-
I don't know if you participate in the b...Yuji-<br />I don't know if you participate in the blogger awards, but I nominated you for The Very Inspiring Blogger Award. You can find the details on my latest post!<br />I find you inspirational!<br />http://mytwicebakedpotato.comKellyhttp://mytwicebakedpotato.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-12706183594881917782012-07-13T17:05:20.552-05:002012-07-13T17:05:20.552-05:00Thanks for the tip about Jane McGonigal. I'm ...Thanks for the tip about Jane McGonigal. I'm watching her video and she has me curious to learn more. I don't know that my dad would be interested, but I may want to do this for myself.<br /><br />Thanks for the support, Kelly.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-18540063345039576092012-07-13T13:44:27.231-05:002012-07-13T13:44:27.231-05:00Yuji-
I'm so sorry about the recent diagnosis ...Yuji-<br />I'm so sorry about the recent diagnosis and the worry that you must be experiencing. I think it is amazing that you and your son have the opportunity to hear your Father's stories. It is true that grandparents have the luxury to have a different relationship with the grandchildren. <br /><br />I am sure that you have thought about this, but there are brain/memory exercises that could be helpful. Consider watching the TED Talk Jane McGonigal-The Game That Can Give You 10 more extra years.<br /><br />Blessings to you and yours!Kellyhttp://mytwicebakedpotato.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-19509715806354784832012-07-13T09:43:52.127-05:002012-07-13T09:43:52.127-05:00Thank you very much, Betsy. There were many nice ...Thank you very much, Betsy. There were many nice moments, and I am cherishing those. I appreciate the kind words and support.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-47692883638058182292012-07-13T09:41:22.152-05:002012-07-13T09:41:22.152-05:00Shiroi,
Thank you so much for sharing the experie...Shiroi,<br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing the experiences you had with your own father. I can always count on you to provide wisdom and good ideas. And it is good to hear what others did in similar circumstances. <br /><br />I really like the idea of capturing and preserving the life history and achievements. Long ago, when my mother passed away, my father set up a memorial on their property, with a place where his ashes would be placed next to hers when the time came. He probably does not remember that now, but it gave him comfort back then. <br /><br />I appreciate your encouragement. Thanks, Shiroi.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-5031246343019986722012-07-13T08:43:47.809-05:002012-07-13T08:43:47.809-05:00I'm so sorry for the diagnosis. It's a ha...I'm so sorry for the diagnosis. It's a hard one, for sure. But yes, there were many bright spots in your week! Thinking of you as you work through decisions and changes. He's lucky to have you, Yuji. I truly believe that!Betsy Brockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06807795605763246015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-70547802450031125452012-07-13T00:22:24.074-05:002012-07-13T00:22:24.074-05:00I am so sorry to hear about your father. My fathe...I am so sorry to hear about your father. My father died early last year and he had suffered dementia for throughout his last year. Although my mother was there to take care of him...it was sad to see. My father and I had discussions during times of lucidity...and as he neared death...he was once again lucid. His last moments were spent with, and his last vision was of, my mother.<br /><br />My father and I had talked of life and death...and I discovered his wish to be cremated. I told him that his ashes would be placed in an urn for my mother to have. I also told him of my plans to have a polished black granite family cremation urn holder on my retirement property. It would be approximately four feet high by eight or so feet wide and would have openable doors over compartments designed to hold several urns in each. On the doors I would have the names of the deceased. Inside I would have their life history, their achievements, and their pictures with the urns. I would also have a polished black granite engraved tablet mounted near it showing our family tree. In front of the urn display would be a polished black granite bench for seating. All of this would be set on a particularly beautiful portion of the property filled with fragrant flowers and shade trees, and with the bench facing West...so the viewers may think of their loved ones as they view the sunset...so to associate serenity with life and death...and to reflect upon their life. It is also a constant reminder that if one is to accept the beauty of life...death is also a part of it. It is the inevitability of death which gives life so much meaning. A memorial shrine serves a great purpose to the living and to the dying.<br /><br />The idea, to my father, had given him peace knowing that he would be remembered...and that he would always be with his family. My mother would be placed next to my father. My wife, and I, would be together. My son would be there...etc. I intend to get property to hand down from generation to generation...for my son's retirement home...and for his children...etc. This gives comfort to not only the dying...but to the living. This way...each knows that he will be immortalized in the minds of the one's he cares most about...and of the future generations. This also gives incentive to the living to achieve so their story will be filled with great deeds to be remembered. It is to be...a sort of...Hall Of Champions.<br /><br />To be forgotten...to not be acknowledged for one's achievements....is, I think, one of the saddest things about death. Something such as this, greatly eases the thought of death for all concerned, in my mind. <br /><br />Of course, this is my view. I remember in Japan, the stacked mochi with <br />the sole mikan on top...the pictures of the deceased on the wall...and the Joss sticks burning.<br /><br />And, of course, this particular affliction may not finish its course for another 10 years or so. I cannot say what to say to your father. I merely wanted to give you a description of what I had done...and what I shall do...in order to give you possible options. As you are already doing...cherish the lucid moments...be prepared for the times when they are not.<br /><br />You must stay strong. Exercise to build your endurance for what is to come...and to be your safety valve for stress. <br /><br />Keep your spirits up. You are the Tiger...the leader which the others shall be looking to for stability. You are the Titan...upon which your shoulders your family may rest. <br /><br />You must take care of yourself, now, more than ever.<br />And always remember, you are setting the example of how to handle adversity...to your son. He is always watching.<br /><br />Take care Yuji.Shiroi Torahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05869506932268171410noreply@blogger.com