tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post6046703018932368599..comments2024-01-25T08:49:06.522-06:00Comments on Hanabi Boy: Dealing with Alzheimer’s Yujihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-11866804851321432482013-05-22T19:25:51.648-05:002013-05-22T19:25:51.648-05:00You are right that it is up to us to use our funct...You are right that it is up to us to use our functioning minds to help our loved ones who cannot help themselves. Usually it is my wife who is better able that I am to get my dad to do something. <br /><br />But this situation is difficult for all, and we also must weigh the cost of additional stress for the family, and whether he would now be better off some place where professionals can look after him. Thank you for your support.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-80351608250899120212013-05-22T19:19:24.725-05:002013-05-22T19:19:24.725-05:00Betsy,
My dad is usually very stubborn and strong...Betsy,<br /><br />My dad is usually very stubborn and strong-willed. He has always been that way, but it is extra difficult now as he just does not realize that we are trying to help him and do what is best for him. Sometimes he can be pushed to do something, but often that doesn't work. Though you are right that he seems to soon forget the argument.Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-66859202189376602312013-05-22T18:29:33.561-05:002013-05-22T18:29:33.561-05:00I definitely think that children have pure hearts....I definitely think that children have pure hearts. I think they are aware of people's feelings because they also go through awkward and scary situations as a child. Things are often confusing for them...and they feel a kinship with others who are also having a hard time. <br /><br />I feel for everyone in your family. I know how frustrating it can sometimes be with someone suffering from any form of dementia. What we had done with my dad, in his last years, was to forego the short term memory loop and to utilize his longer term memory through the use of a fondly remembered positive reinforcer as a method of guiding his actions. <br /><br />It had always helped me to realize when my father was still alive, and in his last months of life, that he was a prisoner of his own mind...and that he was helpless. I had momentary frustration...but I had quickly realized that it was up to us to use our functioning minds to help my father by using our imagination to guide the situation. It is a marathon...and you must pace yourself. I hope your family well.Shiroi Torahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05869506932268171410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-10056973178154163132013-05-22T10:59:27.649-05:002013-05-22T10:59:27.649-05:00Oh, you might be on to something there. How impat...Oh, you might be on to something there. How impatient we become, it is true!<br /><br />I blog with Martha, who has her mom with alzheimers living with her. They just went through similar scenarios with her in having cataract surgery. She has found that if you insist on things, like buying the glasses, their anger or frustration is forgotten just like not buying them was for you. Hope that's some consolation that if you push and make things happen, they are not likely to remember the argument or be upset with you! Betsy Brockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06807795605763246015noreply@blogger.com