tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post6658303956352864060..comments2024-01-25T08:49:06.522-06:00Comments on Hanabi Boy: 2018 Japan Vacation, Day 15 - An Up and Down Day in Kamakura and EnoshimaYujihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-83873841353465264622018-08-08T06:45:55.399-05:002018-08-08T06:45:55.399-05:00Hi Edie, I think the philosophy of "shikataga...Hi Edie, I think the philosophy of "shikataganai" was instilled in me from my parents, though it was more from their actions than from them talking about it. As I've grown older, it has sometimes been harder to let go of things, but having had that mindset from a young age has helped. I sometimes feel like nothing I tell Kai sticks with him, but hopefully he will understand the value of "shikataganai" at some point. <br /><br />Thanks so much for your thoughts and support!Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-53553831463264775802018-08-07T13:21:29.435-05:002018-08-07T13:21:29.435-05:00While I'm sure that I will never fully underst...While I'm sure that I will never fully understand the extent of the challenges faced by your family, I continue to admire the way in which you and your wife persevere from a place of such love.<br /><br />Additionally, your description of "shikataganai" has led to a personal epiphany of sorts. This fully encompasses my philosophy of letting go of that which we cannot change, as well as that complaining or challenging the status quo has little value without having the desire to move forward, working towards fixing the problem. I feel that there is a catharsis in doing so. At the very least, I wish that one day Kai can come to such a place in managing his worries and anxieties, as it is a good place to be.<br />With regards,<br />EdieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-43830949470269894072018-08-06T18:54:58.815-05:002018-08-06T18:54:58.815-05:00Thanks for your perspective, Julia. Thinking back,...Thanks for your perspective, Julia. Thinking back, I agree that Kai had been getting more flexible and that may have made this trip especially frustrating for us. The overwhelming heat is certainly a factor, but we have experienced similar situations on previous trips to Japan and remarked then how well Kai handled it. For whatever reason, his anxiety, especially was much worse this time.<br /><br />We'll look into adjusting medications, and speak with our family therapist as well.<br /><br />I appreciate your thoughts... it helps to hear from a fellow parent who is in the same boat! Yujihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025841543342602157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4687526100634149438.post-57922872974468179462018-08-06T18:24:29.706-05:002018-08-06T18:24:29.706-05:00My daughter is a lot like your son, so I understan...My daughter is a lot like your son, so I understand the frustration! But I have long admired the trips your family takes, and especially the trips to Japan.<br /><br />From my perspective as a reader of your blog, it seems like Kai has been getting progressively more flexible on these trips as the years go by. This year does seem to be an exception, but I wonder if it is mainly due to the heat. I am on the east coast in the US here, and it's been humid and in the 90s all week. It really is hard for me to function in this weather, and I think it's even harder for our kids.<br /><br />Anyway, good luck!Julianoreply@blogger.com